Thursday, June 11, 2009

Fifty mistakes women make when making love

50 Mistakes Women Make When Having Sex

1. Assuming he can get a raging hard on when it suits you. Contrary to
popular belief, men can't just flip a switch and get it up because you
decided to stop being a frigid bitch. Getting it hard is your job. I suggest
you figure it out.

2. Thinking that kissing needs to be this sweet romantic thing all the time.
Sometimes pressing your lips against your partners mouth while you get off
is the hot. It depends on the situation.

3. Leaving him responsible for your orgasm. You know what gets you off. Tell
him. If you don't, it's your own fault when he's snoozing and you're all
wound up.

4. Expecting him to cuddle. Men and women are wired differently. Sex makes
most women want to talk and bond and all that shit. It makes men pass out.
It's a biological thing. Stop fighting it, and stop holding it over his
head, it's not his fault.

5. Expecting him to fall asleep with you in his arms. That shit is
uncomfortable after awhile. A little snuggling isn't unreasonable, but when
it's time to actually sleep? An arm draped over you should suffice.

6. Expecting him to always lay on the charm and romance. Sometimes, that's
nice. Sometimes. But expecting him to be all roses and candles all the time
is like expecting you to act like a pornstar all the time. If you're not
willing to do that, don't expect him to switch for you.

7. Being selfish in bed. Regardless of the shit that Cosmo forces down our
throats, sex is NOT just about us. Get over it.

8. Using Cosmo as a sex bible. I don't know who comes up with half that
shit, but I'm pretty sure they need counseling.

9. Whining when he pushes your head down on his cock instead of stroking
your hair. Know why he's pushing, skippy? Because you aren't doing it right,
and have apparently ignored the other clues he's given you. Pay attention to
the signals that he's sending you.

10. Not moving at all. Missionary is not an excuse to do nothing.

11. Expecting him to undress himself with any amount of grace. He's about to
get some pussy. Be glad he bothered to take his pants all the way off. If it
concerns you so much, undress him yourself.

12. Not shaving your legs. I'm pretty bad at this myself. But if you want
your guy stubble free, you better get out the razor.

13. Allowing your crotch to resemble the amazon. Yes, waxing hurts. Yes,
some people don't want to go bare. Thats fine. If you like bush, great. If
you have sensitive skin and can't shave, I feel for you. But for the love of
Christ, trim that shit if you want him to spend any time down there.

14. Assuming that sex means a relationship. The only relationship you have
is that he has now stuck his hoo hoo dilly in your cha cha. That's as far as
it goes unless otherwise noted.

15. Withholding oral sex just because you're ragging. He didn't do it.
Unless you want him to withhold oral sex because he's hormonal, I suggest
you get some kneepads.

16. Expecting him to figure out what you like by what noise you make. Use
your words. Have you ever actually heard what you sound like while you're
having sex? If you heard yourself on tape, and someone asked you to explain
what was causing you to make that noise, 67% of women would respond with
answers like "I stubbed my toe" "I ran up the steps" or "I was putting up
drywall".

17. Leaving condoms up to him. If you're sexually active and insist that he
uses a condom, I suggest buying a box and keeping it by your bed. Not all
men keep them on them, and it's just as much your responsibility as it is
his. If you think that makes you a slut, you shouldn't be having sex anyway.
Go back to Jr High.

18. Getting your undies in a bunch when he talks dirty. A little fantasy can
be fun. If he treats you with respect all the time, you shouldn't be
offended when he calls you his dirty little slut. When he calls you a whore
and tells you to come, it's his way of showing that he cares if you get off.
Stop being a sissy.

19. Refusing to be spontaneous. I know this is shocking, but sometimes sex
OUTSIDE of the bedroom is fun.

20. Dissing quickies because it's not some slow sensual ordeal. Sex is a
dynamic thing. There's an awesome raw energy when you only have 20 minutes
but having to have someone so bad that you do it half clothed against the
wall. Readjust your thinking.

21. Being too much of a pussy to tell him what is or isn't acceptable before
you start bumping uglies. Be honest. If he asks if he can poke you in the
butt, and you giggle and say no like it's an invitation, don't look
surprised when he "accidentally" sticks his cock in your butt.

22. Expecting him to undress you. I put a bra on almost every day. I know
for a fact that getting them off isn't always easy. Help a brother out.

23. Undressing in the dark. If you're shy, dim the lights, but give the man
something to see. No ripping off the clothes and diving under the covers,
either.

24. Refusing to get on top. There's no reason men should have to do all the
work.

25. Getting that bored look on your face. Men are more visual than women.
Give him something to look at. Get on top and arch your back a little bit.
Move. Do something to indicate that you 1) are not dead and 2) didn't suffer
a minor stroke rendering you unable to move.

26. Expecting him to do all the touching when you're riding him. It's your
body, you're used to it. Play with your tits, rub your clit, do something to
make his job easier.

27. Being too afraid to guide your partner's hand when he's touching you.
Don't like the way he's doing it? Gently take his hand and show him how you
like it.

28. Getting into bed, getting naked, fooling around and then deciding that
you just want to cuddle, then getting offended when he doesn't. Its your
choice to stop, but don't look all fucking surprised when he's confused. You
got him naked in your bed, what else did you think was going to happen?

29. Refusing to let him take control. So you're a feminist. Big fucking
deal. Letting him call the shots doesn't make you any less of one.

30. Refusing to take control. It's ok to crawl across a bed to him on all
fours, push him down and crawl on top. It's not his responsibility to start
things all the time.

31. Forgetting that he has a body that likes to be touched, too. Men have
things like backs and shoulders and stomachs and other parts that are fun to
kiss and touch. You miss a lot of good places by concentrating solely on his
penis.

32. Ignoring his balls. Seriously, they are there. Kiss them, lick them,
suck on them, make a relationship with them, just don't ignore them.

33. Leaving him to his own devices. Nothing is worse than a girl who gets
you most of the way off and then bolts because she doesn't want to deal with
the mess.

34. Launching into some speech about not being an object for sex when he
tries to titty fuck you. Jesus Christ, just push them together and enjoy
yourself. You get a great view.

35. Expecting him to handle you like a porcelain doll. I'd hate to be the
bearer of bad news, but you're not going to break, sister. So doing it
against the wall gives you a bruise on your shoulder. Look at it later and
giggle at the memory.

36. Refusing to try things in the name of "making love". You're not making
anything. You are naked. With another person. Making strange faces and weird
noises. Stop romanticizing it.

37. Taking things way too seriously. Sex is funny. Actually it's hilarious.
Somewhere along the line, someone is going to fall off of a bed, hit their
head on a lighting fixture, accidentally kick a midget or trip over a goat.
It's how you deal with it that really matters.

38. Throwing a bitch fit when he asks for a 3-some. It's the American dream.
(I know my ex is reading this right now, so a quick interjection. One
request for a 3 some is ok. Every 5 minutes, not so much. Know the
difference).

39. Continuing a blow job knowing that you have god awful cotton mouth.
Really. Grab a bottle of water.

40. Nails. Its one thing tracing them up and down your partners back. It's
another when you snag the goods with a claw.

41. Bitching when you get jizz on you. You're having sex. That will happen.
That's the entire point of sex. Establish where he can and can't jizz and be
done with it. Remember, it tightens the pores.

42. Not making any noises at all. Moan. Scream his name. Something so he
knows he's the best you've had, even if he isn't.

43. Faking orgasms. Just. Don't. By faking (IF he believes you) he thinks
he's doing everything right. And if he doesn't know its not working, he's
not going to change it. Starting a vicious cycle of unfulfilling sex which
will eventually be very damaging to his ego.

44. Not washing before sex. I know that sex is spontaneous, this is more of
a general statement. If you haven't showered that day, and things smell a
little...fishy.

..perhaps demanding oral sex is a little ridiculous of you.

45. Anything that involves inserting anything into his body that he has not
specifically approved before hand. I don't care what Cosmo says, some things
are simply not pleasant surprises.

46. Refusing to use oils/whipped cream/other messy but fun things because
you have 541510630 count Egyptian cotton sheets that were made by hand by
the only person alive capable of sewing that pattern. They'll wash.

47. Doing all of your before bed things before sex. Yes, sleeping with
makeup on is bad. Now is not the time to remove it, you can do that later.
And really fucking you with your hair in a ratty scrunchie with acne cream
on your nose is not all its cracked up to be.

48. Cleaning up after sex. Wiping the splooge off is one thing. But changing
the sheets immediately so you can get the other ones in the washer and then
sanitizing everything your naked body might have possibly passed by is not
the way to do it.

49. Making a big deal out of it if he loses his hard on. This is not an
interrogation, or 20 questions. It happens, he's probably mortified and you
are NOT helping. Refrain from using phrases like "it happens to every guy".
Just move to other activities until it gets hard again, and if it doesn't,
get off another way with him. He's still capable of getting you off.
Mumbling "Forget it" and rolling over are not ok.

50. Asking questions right afterwards. The woman equivalent of "was it good
for you?". Now is not a good time to ask "What this means". Right now, it
means he probably needs to take a drink, a leak and a nap, perhaps not in
that order.

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